Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Dishonest people




Sometimes they are right in front of us
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What do we mean 'sometimes' we should say often!

People who are not honest or even close to being honest

And that's fine so long as they stay in their own space

Trouble is we all get up close in trains, planes, buses, shops, malls and the rest

Not to mention work where we may have to spend time with them
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There are many other situations where we find ourselves with dishonest people

Anything to be done?

Yes we can change people and ourselves

For a start by calling them out when they lie
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Not being scared to say that you do not agree with them
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Being very clear that you do not like dishonesty so that the relationship is clearly defined
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Lies are spread through innuendo, make it your habit to be accurate and clear in what you say
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Avoid gossip
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When people talk about others who are not present, particularly when the comments are pointedly negative or bitchy note that this is often the favoured approach of dishonest people
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Dishonest people like to sow dissent, distrust and confusion
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Do not aid them in this practice
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Once dishonest people know where you stand they will either avoid you or moderate their behaviour when with you
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Either way you win because you have not compromised your own integrity
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Not having their company is better than being drawn into their webs of deceit
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For sure they will put you down
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For sure they will lie and distort anything and anyone to gain what they perceive to be an advantage
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They will also tell stories about you as they would anyone else
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This is life and a reality
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Choose what path you will the choice is yours however gaining a reputation for honesty and integrity is the only path that leads to peace of mind
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Over a lifetime dishonest people lose
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Why?
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Because they become known
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You can never know when they are telling the truth nor can they know themselves when others are
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Because they lie they can never trust others as they have to assume that others are like themselves
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Imagine never being able to trust anyone
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Everything they do is calculated on the basis of what's in it for them and this must lead to failure and exposure over time
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Only those who are also dishonest and sense an advantage will want to spend any time with them
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A life lived in lies takes its toll on the immune system
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The physical system shows the strain
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One of the great ironies of 'successfully dishonest people' is that a lot of their ill gotten gains has to be spent on personal security in all its myriad forms
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Much has to be spent on their health and because they are dishonest they have to go to the most expensive doctors, clinics etc as only this way can they believe that they are getting safe treatment
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Others have to be bought off, paid off and so it goes on, the web of deceit has to be maintained
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What from the outside is perceived as success is in reality a prison of mind numbing emptiness
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And at the end when they die there commences a terrible journey where they experience themselves what it felt like for those they cheated, killed and abused
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The double in point of fact
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Not much fun in the next life either as they have to come back and do it all over again
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And again until they learn their lessons
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Ever wondered why so much of the world is in pain?
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Why so many have such difficult lives?
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Everyone you see in pain, all of us are paying our karma
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All without exception
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This will be a world of pain for a long time to come yet
Dishonesty is not a very compelling choice once you understand the true costs

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