Thursday, December 29, 2011

Tripping lightly



Through life.
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Watching others embroiled in events that you would never indulge in.
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Keeping safe by following convention.
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Works pretty well for a while.
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Problem is times are changing and all  the old certainties are going.
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The old values are changing.
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Previously secure strategies are failing.
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What to do?
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Hang on and hope things don't change any more?
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Not such a good strategy really in these troubled times.
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Stress keeps building
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Stress is just another level of fear and for us to carry fear over time leads to bigger problems.
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Getting rid of fear is not easy.
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First step though is to acknowledge that we have a problem.
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Second is to understand that we have fear.
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For most a fear is something that we hide.
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Particularly from ourselves, so hunting it or them down can be challenging.
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Ask those who know you well what they think.
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Even better if you know a professional ask her to help you.
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Usually we have more than one fear.
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Often they date right back in our lives, sometimes to a very early age.
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Next step is to accept what we are frightened of.
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Then comes the hard part, which is to get rid of it.
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Start by talking it out loud, the fear that is say it out loud.
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Look at it and see if it is still true, that you are frightened of it.
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Share your fear with others, preferably those you trust.
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Examine the fear after discussing it and note how you feel about it now.
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Notice how much it has driven your life.
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Decide, choose to let it go.
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That means saying goodbye to it.
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That means deciding to no longer be frightened of it.
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Accepting that it did frighten you.
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Deciding deep down that you do not need to keep this fear.
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That it is no longer part of who you are or wish to be.
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It is no longer part of you.
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Decide to move on.
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Choose to find more love in your life.
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Choose more lightness.
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Let laughter find you more often.
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Learn about yourself.
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We are all in process, meaning that we have layer upon layer that we can learn about ourselves.
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Like an onion skin, layer after layer.
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Which if you think about it is not such a bad thing as it means that we are always learning.
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And one of the secrets of a successful life is to keep growing throughout your life.
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Keep growing please!

1 comment:

Alexandra said...

Such a good feeling growing !