Loneliness

The prospect of loneliness is probably one of the biggest fears that modern humans have to contend with. 
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More often than not, this is reinforced by the reality of actually being alone.
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But it’s not automatically synonymous with it. 
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There are plenty of people who are alone and are quite happy with it. 
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It can be associated with independence.
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Or standing on your own two feet.
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Going at it alone even. 
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Maybe you’re a loner and you don’t need anyone else to support you. 
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You can be alone and be content with it.
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Loneliness, on the other hand, is a creeping and destructive force. 
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Triggered by disruptive life events.
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Moving locations or homes.
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Losing your partner.
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Death of relatives.
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Or just fed up with being alone.
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It’s a painful state that we’d be quite happy never to have to face.
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However often we find ourselves in it.
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What to do?
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If we are sure that we do not like or wish to remain alone or being lonely then several thoughts occur.
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Being lonely can be because we are alone.
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Or it can because we have not sorted our life in such a way that being alone is not making us lonely.
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If it is this then time to rearrange your life so that you get out more, meet others.
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Involve yourself in actions and activities where you contribute.
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Try some activities which are social.
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Others which bring you into contact with people who share your interests.
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Funny how many people say they like such and such an activity and then do nothing to get involved with it!
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Time to take action to get you out of your loneliness.
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This requires you to make effort.
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One of the reasons you are lonely is because you have not worked on those areas that cause you to be lonely.
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Often this is depression.
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And again it is weird how many people are obviously depressed yet have not admitted this to themselves
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And as they say the first step in healing is to admit that you have a problem.
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So do so if this is your case.
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Look at yourself, are you depressed?
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And often we do not do this because we have a fear that it won't work.
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A fear that we are not good enough.
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That we cannot change things
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Time to test the waters.
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Take some actions.
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Take one every day.
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Actions to break your habits.
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To change them.
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No one can do this for you though until you decide that you want to stop being lonely. 
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To move out of where you are today.
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Beating loneliness is your fight, no your chance.
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Take it